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Gentle Potty Independence: A Montessori-Inspired Guide to Choosing the Perfect Potty for Mindful families

You're on the quest for your little one's first potty.

And while I could give you formal review of all potty brands out there with a list of features, colours, or optional accessories and the best place to buy it, I truly don't think that would be the most helpful.

Because the truth is, that you might be offered a second hand potty, you might pick up a new with tags potty at the thrift store, find a potty from Facebook Marketplace, visit your local baby boutique a browse their selection, or order next day delivery from Amazon from the limited options available. You might get it before your baby has even arrived, or be ordering it the day your 18 month old decides diapers are a thing of the past with the kind of resolve that has you up tonight trading in precious sleep for reading this guide. 


What's in this potty purchasing guide?

This guide is filled with Montessori-inspired magic as we support you in guiding your 12m + toddler towards becoming a proud potty champion! Incorporating gentle, respectful and positive parenting approaches, you'll find a comprehensive list of potty considerations that will promote potty independence, encourage collaboration and cooperation, and consider comfort and a good fit for your little one's body for optimal body alignment and position for potty use and comfort. 

We're embracing respectful parenting practices, gentleness, and loads of laughter as we dive into the not-so-always obvious details when searching for the perfect potty that fits like a dream and encourages collaboration – making potty time a breeze for both you and your little one.

By the end of this guide I want you to be able to assess the potties that are available to you by understanding what will matter to you and your child, and without worrying about getting any particular one - because all that matters is that your toddler LOVES using it. 

So what really matters most when choosing a potty for your toddler? Let's jump right into the potty buying guide:


A Montessori-Inspired Guide to Choosing the Perfect Potty for Mindful families



There are many companies offering tiny potties for your pint-sized learner. As you venture into the land of potty independence, comfort is king. Look for a potty that feels cozy and sturdy. Safety is our trusty sidekick on this journey, with rounded edges and a stable base ensuring peace of mind while your little one sits confidently.

- Look for a potty with rounded edges and no sharp parts to ensure your child's safety during use.

- For your child's first potty, opt for a stable and sturdy potty that sits on the floor to prevent tipping over or sliding, providing a secure place for your child to sit with their feet firmly on the ground. 

- Your toddler may appreciate a high back potty vs. a low back potty. If space is a concern, try a low back potty, and if you're finding your toddler would like more support you can either place it against a wall, or back it into a corner so they feel more supported behind them. 

- Choose a potty with a comfortable, anatomically correct seat to encourage your child to sit comfortably for longer periods. Depending on your child's body shape, a rounder or more oval potty might feel more comfortable on their tush and legs. Consider how they like to place their legs. Some potties have wider centres and some even have handle bars - A win for toddlers who love mounting little vehicles. 

- Many potties have a splash guard to prevent the upwards spray from the penis. Following gentle, respectful, and mindful parenting practices, it's best if we teach our little ones to push down their penis as part of their toileting skills instead of relying on a guard. The guard can also get in the way of them seeing and responding to their anatomy and how it functions during a pee.

- Some potties have space on either side for your little one to hold onto while they go. Having something to firmly hold onto can be comforting to little ones and increase their sense of security and confidence on the potty, a feature you might look for if your little one likes a little more comfort and security. 



\When selecting a potty, consider your child's stature, making sure their feet not only touch the ground, but that their knees are higher than their hips. This puts them into a squat position. If you've ever seen a Squatty Potty commercial, you know that from this position, the colon straightens out allowing poops to pass more easily. The position also has been proven to aid in passing gas. 

Feet in a pointed tippy-toe position is also known to suppress bladder release.

AND, by being on the ground, younger potty learners will feel safer, and be more independent in their movement leading to greater comfort and independence, and willingness to release their bladder and bowels. 

Let's follow the science on this one folks! 



In the realm of Montessori-inspired magic, form and function are equally important. Montessori observed that children learn more readily in environments that were harmonious and beautiful.  Creating a toileting space for your little on that pleases both you and them will make everyone more likely to engage with, take care of, and enjoy using the space. 

So go ahead and spend a little more on the prettier potty that you won't mind looking at MANY times a day for the next couple of years or more! 



Seek a potty that encourages teamwork so that your little one can mimic your modelling and get right into the potty care groove from the start. 

Select a potty made from easy-to-clean materials, ensuring quick and hassle-free cleaning after each use.

Avoid potties with numerous crevices or hard-to-reach areas that might trap dirt and bacteria.

Detachable pots that fit inside a base are easier to dump (with very little splash-back!), clean, and dry off than single piece potties which are tough for adults to dump without splash-back and nearly impossible for our little ones to help dump and clean. 



As nature's stewards, we can opt for an eco-friendly potty journey. You might find an eco-warrior potty crafted from sustainable materials, leaving a smaller footprint on our enchanted earth. Or you might thrift or be gifted a second hand potty. Either way, you'll inspire your child to protect the magical world they inhabit, instilling a deep love for the planet!



Once you have found your first potty, you'll want to make sure that you have a potty accessible at all times, and may find yourself needing to purchase a second or third, depending on the size and layout of your home. 

See how your little one likes your first potty before going  ahead to purchase more. You may find you want to try a different style after seeing how your little one reacts to it. 



You'll eventually want to leave the home with your potty using little one! Depending on your setup and your child's personality, you might want to take your tiny potty with you. 

If that's not an option, there are small foldable potty seats that are great to use outdoors (either allowing the pee/poo to land on the ground or into a bag), or to use on toilet seats. 

Though at the start your toddler may appreciate you holding them in a squat above the ground or toilet without the use of a potty or potty seat at all - easy peasy! 

If we follow the child, build that trust, and collaborate with them on their needs, they'll be confident in their toileting abilities in and out of the house before long.  



"Join the party" when it comes to your child's potty triumphs by matching your little one's level of celebration. That might look like a happy dance, a sweet hug with comforting and joyful words, or quiet contemplation followed by gentle and factual acknowledgement that they listened to their body and put the pee or poo in the potty. 

Encourage every step of the journey by bringing lightness to challenges and playfulness to the repetition your little one will need to reach potty mastery! As you navigate this enchanting path together, remember that gentleness, respect, and encouragement are the enchanted keys to unlock your little one's potty potential.

With Montessori-inspired magic and a dash of playfulness, your child's potty independence journey you can model and encourage positive self-image, confidence, and healthy self-care habits for your little one.

And while I LOVE seeing you reach potty success, remember that this isn't just about reaching the destination; it's about reviling in the joyous, connection-building moments along the way. 

Always learning alongside you,



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