Building Potty Independence: Responding Respectfully to Toddler Objections
As parents embracing gentle, positive, and respectful parenting approaches, we understand that every objection from our little ones is a window into their world, an opportunity to delve deeper into their needs and feelings.
By reframing what would have previously be seen as obstacles, these objections become signposts that guide us to collaborate more closely with our little ones, strengthening our parent-child bond we share as we navigate the path to potty independence.
In this article, we explore 10 common ways our toddlers might object to using the potty and offer respectful responses that not only address their concerns but also embrace them as valuable contributors to their own growth.
With each objection, we uncover a chance to foster understanding, empower our children, and create a nurturing environment where they feel heard, supported, and respected. This gentle approach, rooted in positive language and understanding, will help you guide your little one toward potty independence while maintaining a supportive and respectful atmosphere, and highlights natural consequences when appropriate.
As part of the movement of respectful parenting, we know that objections are stepping stones, and collaboration is the cornerstone of success. Knowing you have heard these objections a few too many times lately I'm giving you a huge high five for facing them with me once again here!
10 Common potty objections our toddlers will share with us
1. "I don't want to stop playing to use the potty!"
Explore the underlying need: Does your child wants to know that they won't miss out on any playtime by taking a break to use the potty?
Respectful response: "I understand you're having so much fun playing. How about we take a quick break to use the potty? Then you can get back to playing without sudden interruptions because you need to go."
2. "I'm too busy with my toys right now."
child want reassurance that they won't have to leave their toys behind?
Respectful response: "I see you're really enjoying your toys. How about we bring a special toy with us to the potty? This way, you won't miss out on any fun while you take a short break."
3. "I don't need to go!"
Respectful response: "That's perfectly fine. Sometimes our bodies surprise us. Let's just give it a try, and if you don't need to go, that's okay too! It's always better to check and make sure."
4. "I'm scared of the noise!"
Explore the underlying need: Is your child is expressing fear of a loud and unfamiliar noise?
Respectful response: "I understand the flushing noise can be a bit loud. How about we cover our ears or flush together? This way, we can make it less scary and more comfortable."
5. "I want to wear my diaper!"
Explore the underlying need: Your child might be finding comfort in the familiar and feel unsure about change.
Respectful response: "I know you're comfortable in your diaper. However, you're growing bigger, and we're learning to use the potty. How about we try wearing underwear, just like a big kid? It's a special step toward becoming more independent."
6. "I don't like that potty!"
Explore the underlying need: Your child might find the potty unfamiliar or uncomfortable.
Respectful response: "It's okay if you're still getting used to this potty. How about you sit on it and show me what you like and don't like about it."
7. "I want you to come with me every time!"
Explore the underlying need: Is your child seeking your comfort and connection? Perhaps more one-on-one time?
Respectful response: "I'm here to support you. Sometimes you can try going on your own, and if you need me, I'll be right here. I'm not going anywhere. You're doing a fantastic job, and I'm proud of you. When you're all done, come give me a big hug ok? I'll be waiting for it!"
8. "I'm too sleepy to use the potty!" / (Or is acting very tired)
Explore the underlying need: Your child might be expressing a desire to stay comfortable and cozy, or might be feeling low energy or need to rest soon.
Respectful response: "I understand you're feeling tired. Using the potty can actually help you feel more comfortable while you rest. We can make it quick, and then you can go (back) to your cozy bed."
9. "I'm playing with my friends!"
Explore the underlying need: Your child values their playtime and social interactions.
Respectful response: "Your friends will still be here when you come back. How about we take a quick potty break together, and then you can continue playing with them?"
10. "I don't want to wear underwear!"
Explore the underlying need: Your child might be attached to the comfort of diapers and unsure about change, or might not like the sensation of underwear, or the work of pulling down and up undies plus pants.
Respectful response: "I know you're used to your diaper, and that's okay. Wearing underwear is a new and exciting step, and accidents can happen. If they do, we'll clean up together and keep practicing." or "Undies help to protect your body and keep your clothes clean. Do you want to wear the green ones or the white ones? Let me know which ones are right for today."
A recap of how we can reframe potty objections from our toddlers
The journey to potty independence is filled with these little objections, each presenting an opportunity for connection, understanding, and growth. By responding with empathy, positivity, and respect, you're not only helping your child overcome their objections but also instilling valuable life skills and fostering a strong parent-child bond.
Potty challenges are a normal part of the process, and with your patient and gentle approach, your child will navigate them with confidence and ultimately embrace their newfound potty independence.
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